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Hip Hop Retreat Week was about bringing people that are aspiring as well as established together for the culture. Many media personalities, artists, producers, dj’s, hosts, industry professionals, and curators came together for the first annual hip hop retreat week in Brooklyn which lasted 5 days but had events before during and after for those who are like minded. I had the pleasure of being a panelist as well as a moderator during HHRW 2016, and i look forward to next year and all to come!


This is part one of the podcast panel, where we spoke about going beyond radio/podcasts, and about the latest tastemakers.


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America “You gon suck it or not”?

Posted: September 6, 2016 by JDM aka JACKIE SPEAKS in DRAMA, LIFE, MEDIA, MUSIC, NEW YORK, NEWS, PEOPLE, politics, Uncategorized, weirdnews

In the wake of NFL star Colin Kaepernick’s decision to remain seated during “The Star Spangled Banner” to protest racial injustice, there is renewed interest in the United States’ national anthem. Now, a hip-hop fan named Dero Anthony has come up with his or her own way of changing the conversation around our country’s official song. Anthony has started a petition to drop the two-century-old Francis Scott Key number and replace it with the Diplomats’ classic “Dipset Anthem.”

“The current National Anthem is BS,” reads Anthony’s plea. And…that’s it. No further explanation is given, nor is it required. 

The petition has 974 signatures as of this writing, out of its stated goal of 10,000,000. <— This via Associated Press and COMPLEX mag 

All this can lead us to wonder is, will America be chanting “You gon suck it or not”? .. If you have heard the Dipset Anthem it is pretty vulgar and comical. Would you want this to be America’s National Anthem? All jokes aside.-Jdm

While I am up on an opposite sleep schedule I want to take the time to say that I enjoyed working with, learning from, and teaching others in this industry since 2003/2005. So many levels to this. I made sure to invest in myself, my skill-set, and my craftsmanship and artistry my whole life. I only respect others who know the grind, and have shed blood sweat and tears for what they believe in. I don’t congratulate lazy or self proclaimed people, never fuel that mess!. I was injured about four years ago and underwent 3 surgeries and countless procedures. Prior to that, I had other health scares and issues that required surgery or medical care. I have always worked through everything, and gone above and beyond for others as well as my own passions. Never asking for anything in return. I believe in the culture of art, music, entertainment, and film. most importantly I believe in myself. I live every day as productively as possible, so when I have an opportunity I TAKE IT. When I was bed bound for a few years and in doctors 24/7 I had to make a decision. Do I let this conquer my life? Do I let depression and anger over situations I cannot control ruin everything I worked so hard for? NO. I chose to focus on better health, and managing my pain and obligations and begin re-creating my path again. Just because I haven’t been VISUALLY SEEN doesn’t mean that I ever stopped living for my dreams and those I love.
If you have ever had a time where you thought the world was crushing you, and you felt cornered or wanted to give up but didn’t…I want to hear from you. I want to begin having these conversations. I need to speak to the people who need to be uplifted, or can possibly enlighten and uplift others. I want to help you share your testimonial.
This is my testimonial, and this is the bare minimum of everything I went through and am still going through.
I love everyone who loves me, and I support you!. If you have a goal, it is best to make plans to achieve it. Don’t ignore what your heart is screaming for! – Jackie also known as Mivida JDM

Indeed you might ask, how can an entrepreneur need advice from a fellow entrepreneur?

Well I will answer; because not all of the ones out have life and or business experience.

That being said I would like to share a few thoughts that may help others that currently freelance, own a small or large business, or are in plans to do so.

First bit of advice is regarding FOUNDATION!

In order to build yourself in your field you need to have a strong foundation, much like a house. if you’re weak you will need to be strong.

Your team reflects highly of who you are. You must also have a strong team.

Together you will excel and be able to meet your business goals and satisfy the goals in your business relationships.

Second; you need to have GOALS in order to meet them right?

Think about what drives you?, what motivates you? Then think about how you can achieve everything necessary to meet the goals you set. GOOD now that you’ve done so LISTEN UP.


If you want to be a professional be a damn good one. Research your profession or craft, invest in the thing that you need.

Things I advise are but not limited to; formal training in your craft or line of business, tools required such as software programs to utilize or equipment and or instruments if your profession requires them.

For example:

If you’re an actor take classes, obtain experience on set and off set (volunteer, network, and expand your knowledge while doing so) to then pursue paid work. Purchase different wardrobe options so that you may submit for different castings (nurse, doctor, cop, fireman, lawyer, etc) It will land you more options.

Obtain as much EXPERIENCE as you can, you will then be in high demand. In ANY form of business, this is important.

That being said, expanding on that need for experience in all businesses you can establish and maintain internships or apprenticeships where eventually you can then get a job referral based on the “show and prove” method. Show your WORK ETHIC prove you’re worthy.

Once you’ve established your existence in your business community begin to think about your next steps.

How can I create a steady income?

How can I obtain the tools I need for my goals moving forward?

Who can I offer my business to and how do I do so?



Protect yourself.

Protect your content.

What do I mean by “protect yourself and your content” ?

Obtain all individuals needed that will protect you and your business.

Lawyers specific to your business.

Legal ownership and rights to your content, so that all are protected.

and more.


-This is a small portion of my advice to anyone who is an entrepreneur. For more details, to ask me questions, or to seek referrals for anything i mentioned, please feel free to write me a message I will reply.

Thanks for reading!

JDM aka MividaJDM

Part of my pain JDM


Where I come from quality time means more to me than anything money can buy. I had an unusual upbringing and was already working full time by high school. Lost my dad and a few years later lost my mom.

I moved out on my own at 18 years old with minimum wage and just enough to cover rent and hardly able to do groceries or pay bills. I watched VHS tapes over and over because I had no cable for awhile. I still had dial up to go online with an old ass pc. Over time little by little I built my life. I built my home and I built my career. I went from that to running a medical office and working in the industry with some of the best equiptment and people.

Having no parents at the age of 21 took a toll on me. Dad passed when I was a teen and mom passed when I turned 21. I didn’t always make the best decisions but I guarantee I learned from them. My health started to slip in 2009. I had first surgery in 2010 and from there continuous random issues have arose pertaining to health and interrupting my life. As of 2013 I was in an accident at work which changed my life. I went from being happy (finally) and living comfortably, to fighting for my paychecks from workers comp, not being able to have any kind of social life, not being able to participate in sports or gym, not being able to travel, and most importantly not being able to live my life daily as I used to. No radio, no modeling, no events, etc. However in this time I have been home I have been able to see my friends and family who visit me or were by my side at doctors etc, and I again learned the value of quality time that I once started to forget. I embraced my art skills again drawing and painting through my pain when I couldn’t sleep sometimes for days at a time. I made some changes to secure my future and still in all made sure I was there for people who needed me while I myself was down and out.

When I was at work I worked and commuted 15-20 hours of my day 5-6 days a week. I lost the spare time I used to have on weekends sometimes having to go to my office or being exhausted and having errands to run and maintain my home. Being hurt and out of work I realized who my real friends are and that my job can be gone in an instant if I don’t recover soon, I again will need to start my life over again…and this time I will do it with only positive people in my circle. I can’t afford anything less.

On Monday August 12 I will undergo one of two surgeries needed for me to get back to normal life. After recovering from that one I will continue to fight for my job and for the approval for the second surgery.

The second surgery is major and involves my spine, I may never be the same again physically (concerning pain and range of motion) but I will always be the same mentally. I can only pray that I will be able to continue my pursuance with my career after this. As an aspiring multi talented media personality actress model and business manager.

I just wanted to share a piece of my life to help those who have no idea understand. This is not the half of it. So if I don’t acknowledge every attempt of someone hitting on me or every friendship that dwindles out here and is because I learned from a young age what and who I need in my life. I don’t agree to everything or with everyone, it’s called being smart and planning my future.

I tell every person that comes I to my life that I don’t respect people who don’t respect their parents and that don’t earn their keep in life. I was raised to survive and to love my family and friends, anything less is unacceptable.

Till I blog or write again,
Jackie aka Baby J aka JDM



Ladies we often sit here and wonder about the why,what, and how of a bad ending with someone once its over. We have all at one time said “What’s his problem”!?

There is a popular saying “thinking about someone is like letting them live rent free in your head” if that’s the case it’s an eye opener!! How much time do we spend thinking of the “couldve wouldve shouldve’s”? it needs to stop!

I feel like my world was turned upside down this year. I went through a moment where everything felt so “perfect” then soon after everything felt so fake! My intuition lead me to a safer place where I was far from what couldve been much worse had I stuck around and settled for something much less than what I deserve. I am speaking from experience, we need to listen to our hearts and minds when it comes to love. A man will tell you everything they think you want to hear just to keep you, and sometimes they lie to you because whatever their truth is..they are scared to open up or they think its better to lie to protect our emotions when they have no idea that the truth is much easier to handle than a lie..they feel most of us will run the other way or completely go ape shit. I allowed someone into my heart after years of not accepting the “feelings” from the opposite gender on a serious long term level better yet YEARS without calling someone “boyfriend” if they didn’t deserve that title. I finally cracked this year and where did it get me?.. right back where I started! Wondering how people have become even more casual over the years and inconsiderate. There are plenty of men who are taken and or allegedly “happy” that hit on me constantly and it makes me think WOW WHAT AN ASSHOLE! They smile in their wife’s face then the first chance they get they are begging for attention from someone else, I keep on going and ignore the’s quite amusing how they are all so lame.

I am taking this time to write to my female audience because I want you to know that i overcame what many thought would torment me for a long time based on my utter shock and disbelief that yet again I was fooled and my initial “quiet” hiatus.  I took that broken heart and I looked ahead instead of back in time. I looked at the parts of my life that needed my attention and began repairing “me”. When we are in love we often neglect our priorities from health, work, and last but not least our social lives..we have all been there at least once. I have a few good friends that go MIA every time they are in a relationship but I understand why… the constant sacrifices to fit everyone into your calendar and keep everyone happy and the new hardships which may occur with your significant other that may “consume us” can easily feel like they are quick but last for weeks or maybe months before we realize when was the last time I had lunch with my friends? or went for a jog at my favorite place?…etc. Well let me tell you it feels great to be back!! Some people aren’t meant to be compatible although it may seem’s called the “honeymoon stage” where everything is sweet right before the true colors show..don’t get me wrong there are happy couples out there but its about who you can stand to be with, because no one is perfect. Some of us have very low tolerance while others can “settle”, or even accept things that are outrageous, situations do vary. The point is, never let yourself forget who comes first..YOU.

-Jackie da Model








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So as you know we recently had a crazy snow blizzard in NY leaving many of the 5 boroughs snowed in and under with over 2 feet of snow. People were at a standstill with public transportation and also roadways. I saw things I never thought I would see. Bloomberg has really done it this time!!!.

The following are things I heard and are indeed true facts:

A man was found dead in the snow in Staten Island by another man who was shoveling. The man had apparently had a heart attack and was then covered in snow.

A baby died because an ambulance took too long to get to him and also because 911 took too long to get the call.

A man who attempted suicide off a building actually lived thanks to all the garbage that was not being collected by the dept of sanitation! He landed on a garbage bag and damaged his spine but survived the fall.

A riot and several fights (all at the same time) broke out on the D train in Brooklyn due to irate passengers once the trains were up and running. They were running once an hour and then packed to capacity so every train that did show up was followed by fist fights and impatience.

Angry home owners in Brooklyn and I’m sure other boroughs were fuming because not only did the city not plow the snow for 3-5 days, but on top of that when they finally did they tossed all the snow from the street right back onto the cleaned sidewalks! Oh yeah..and back on top of the garbage that STILL hasn’t been picked up which Bloomberg expects homeowners to have dug out.

Luckily we had some strange heat wave on Saturday and by today alot of the snow has melted and or been plowed away. We are left with ice patches and some snow and slush…and umm the garbage (I hope they get it tomorrow because it looks like a fort along the curb!)

This NEW YORK snow blows update brought to you by Jackie da Model 😉

@jackiespeaks247 on twitter

Winter Cuffing Vs. Spring Flings

“Winter Cuffing Vs. Spring Flings”
By Jackie da Model

So it has come to my attention that people tend to get together for the long term during the winter, and have casual flings in the spring time. I asked a few different people their opinions on this observation. We all know that the Winter is too cold to be outdoors and guys are too lazy to run around “having fun” in less than 20 degrees. Spring is a time where everyone is enjoying the weather and also activities outdoors and therefore have more of a chance to meet people consistently and date or decide if they want to just “chill”.

Weighing the pro’s and con’s of winter dating and spring dating have led me to the conclusion that making excuses for wanting to commit or run wild tend to come from those who are unsure of themselves. If you can’t trust yourself to behave in nice weather what makes you think you will in the cold?.  If you want to be with someone exclusively it doesn’t matter the weather, it matters who that person is and what they can offer you. Do they complete you?, Do they understand you?, Can they keep you satisfied? Those should be the ideal reasons, not “I want to stay in and cuddle because its cold so I need a cuddle buddy” or “Lets go speed dating in the spring”.

That’s the equivalent of the date you bring everywhere vs. the indoor boo. The date you bring everywhere may have won the respect and the honor of meeting friends and family. The indoor boo is most likely only good for sex or companionship. NUFF SAID! Get it together ladies and gents!!!

“Never make someone your priority when you are only their option”-anonymous quote

I have lived and learned and at this time I can honestly say that Love is unexpected, so let’s not search in the hot chocolate aisle at the bodega ….if your meant to be you will meet that person at the time best for both of you.

Stay Focused!!


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